The Long Awaited Update
Man, time flies when you're having fun (or stuck in a daily routine). Around the time of my last blog post I had my summer school finals and somehow I just lost track of the blog.
There has been a bunch of things on my mind lately. A) What am I really looking for. B) How committed am I to achieve my goals. C) What am I willing to sacrifice to get my goals.
Well, to start off, I changed blog template as the old one made my posts seems like pages out of a book. Also the template host lost the images in the background, so oh well.
Next, after I got the lay over a month ago, I decided to sit down and think about the things that worked for me and the things that didn't. I feel I am developing a sense of reading people by their micro-facial expressions. That is, if I am talking to someone and I am about to say "quit being a dumbass" I can sometimes feel before I say it if it is going too far. You know what I mean? I'm basically trying to learn how to check myself.
Because of this I have been trying to test the limits I can take a conversation by either being overly boastful, or under.
This leads me to more uses of negs. I have a field report to show you guys, I'll post it after this.
Another reason I have been less on this blog is because I have been focusing a fair amount in my lair http://simurl.com/smlair and we just recently had a lair meeting where I met a new wing man. Nilabigdog. Now this guy is just starting out, but he completely had me realize the A) B) C) shit I listed up there.
For one thing, this guy does not give in to Approach Anxiety, this fucker approaches every fucking girl he can. He also doesn't just watch PUA material, he fucking takes notes like its a college lecture. I recall back when the David D. Mastery program came out, I too took notes, but they were really just simple bullet points, this guy takes full notes, fills up notebooks and just absorbs the material.
There is one piece of advice I came across while watching some material that I wrote in big, red letters. "Getting good at the game is 90% field work, 10% home work" and I recall ingraining that in my brain, for real. As in, literally if I am not in field 90% and reading material 10% I know I'm doing something wrong. So if I have an opportunity to go out, and I turn it down I need to ask myself "What am I willing to sacrifice to get good?"
So, I wrote out a routine that I must follow every day:
Anyway, Nila made me realize something. If you allow approach anxiety to determine your progress as a PUA, you are exactly an AFC. Yes, for the past 2 years I have been an AFC. I don't mean that I am talking shit about myself at all, I have had many great, positive experiences. There are nights were I am "on" and I approach. Just recently I got a lay. The other night in a club I had a long make-out session with a girl, but on those nights I was in "PUA Mode", but I wasn't a PUA deep inside.
Let me re-word this. A PUA is a guy who does not let approach anxiety affect his pick up. A PUA is someone who approaches girls like an art, different every time, but doesn't let his nervousness dictate how he is going to paint his masterpieces [ie, he isn't going to let anxiety affect his sarges].
For the past couple of years, 90% of the time I went out, I'd have approach anxiety till I either crashed a few sets, had about 3 beers, or whatever. This is bullshit guys. I understand we DO have anxiety, but we can't let that effect us. We have to make that anxiety shrink. Just like a high-diver was probably scared shit less the first time I stepped up a 30-foot board, a professional diver will step up and through he still probably feels the anxiety, he doesn't let it effect him.
This means that if you (Yes, YOU) have approach anxiety like myself, there is only one solution. DO COURAGE! (Just like Dr. Paul says in MindOS)
Open up 50 sets in a one day with Ross Jeffries':
"Hi, I'm Manny the Martian. What's your favorite flavor of bowling ball"
Yep, just walk up and down the mall and approach everyone with that. Approach families, guys, ugs, boyfriend-girlfriend, girls, every one. If you feel anxiety or if you feel stupid opening a particular set with that opener, then that is more reason to do it.
Listen, if you are like me 2 years ago, you'd think I am over doing it. But here is my fact. I have not gotten over approach anxiety, and I have been in the game for 2 years. This is utter bull shit and I do not accept that from myself. PUA's we are the exception to the rule. We are the guys who don't fear the approach, or if we do fear the approach, we don't let it effect us (just like the high-divers).
Imagine where you would be right now if you did not like any anxiety effect your actions... where would you be if all your limiting beliefs turned into empowering beliefs?
I imagine Nilabigdog will become a master PUA within the next year. Within the past couple weeks he is gotten more calibrated and is getting farther and farther in his sets. Its kind of magical watching it.
Okay, now back to some good news. I went to a club the other night and man, girls had bitch shields, but I still got a make out! Hah, it was funny because as she was kissing me, she said "you use too much tongue" Just like what Mystery said in one of his programs... he was making with a girl and she told him "you use your tongue too much" So when my girl said this, I kind of laughed. Didn't feel insecure at all. Its funny, but when I girl is in my arms, nothing really effects me. So I told her, "okay, you use a lot of tongue, I won't use any"
mmm I love it when the girl uses tongue. Now I have a soar throat though, and I rarely get sick haha.
I have a fuller field report of this I posted in my Lair message board. I'll post it after this.
And some more non-PUA details going on. Fuck, I got another B+ in one of my classes, thats 6 B+'s in a row! They are so cloose to an A- and its the difference between a 3.3 and a 3.7 GPA. I even got the highest grade on the final, 1-point from the highest on my midterm, I just did shitty on the homeworks.
Eh, normal life isn't too interesting, we gotta face it, relationships and sarging is something I'll look back on, not the grades I got in school.
Also, I am almost done reading "Influcence" by Robert Calidini... if I can, I'll post up a book report on it, it is an excellent book. Check it out here: http://simurl.com/influence
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