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This past Sunday I went on a Date with Eve since she asked me out again (myBalls++). I think she regrets rejecting me because I am probably the first guy she has met who was honest with his feelings and didn't apologize for them..

It starts off with her running late, or so I thought. I call her cell at 12:10 and as I leave a voice mail, my roommate comes to me and says "Your friend is at the door"

"My friend?"... heh just my friend

So it turned out she lost her phone at some store and was waiting out side for me for 10 minutes till she decided to come to my door. Nice, so she met my roommate and told me of her cell phone's disappearance and yada yada. She asks if she can use my computer to look up the store's phone number and of course I let her. She calls the store and bingo found the phone! Nice!

So when we decide where to go on the date, at first I say pizza then something else and she is like "nah I am going to have pizza for dinner etc etc". But then I mention that we just go to the mall where her cell phone is at and eat there. So we do that. And on the way to chit chat about whatever, keeping it light. I just saw the movie "Closer" (Which I enjoyed a lot) and we chatted about that, but I didn't talk about the relationship aspects of Closer, I talked about how I felt it was an amazing description of man's selfishness and greed in all forms.

As we walk through the mall, we talk but there is almost no Kino. I am not forward in anyway (as that was the big flaw of my last encounters). I played "hard to get" a bit, but in a sense I was just being me. Here let me explain..

When the community says "Fake it till you make it" do they really mean "Fake"? I dont' think so. I think faking it is being nice and charitable with money and overly complimenting. That is Faking it. Being Me, being real is how I feel I am. Now that doesn't mean "being me" implies showing my insecurities or limiting beliefs. Its being 100% with no restrictions. That is being real. Showing your insecurities is also being fake because your insecurities aren't YOU. They are a social defense mechanism at work. We gotta get over that shit.

Anyway, I was being me as best I could (hehe damn limiting beliefs... but they didn't get in the way that much this time). When it came time to buying the food, I said to her "Hey this is your treat right?" Just like that. JUST like that. HAHA My brothas, she smiled, laughed and said "Sure yeah" and she paid for my meal.

myBalls++ I think my balls just grew. First she calls me and sends me like 5 text messages, now she is paying for my food. Brilliant.

But I didn't reward her for it. I just stayed me. (I think she likes to chase, this is how I was in the very beginning...)

The date went on, and then I decided to buy dessert. Here is something I learned (or made a mistake, or whatever you want to call it). I was listening to David Shade's "How to Set the Foundation for a Wild Sexual Relationship" and Shade mentions how we should feed the girl dessert and use dessert as an allegory for sex. (Check out the program)

So when I buy the... $3 scoop of ice cream ... fucking expensive!.... anyway when we sit down, I offer her a spoon and scoop a bit and offer her a bite. She rejects it! Ahhh the agony hehe. So I learned, this situation clearly wasn't designed for that. A fucking mall in daylight with families around, not the greatest time to feed my exFuckBuddy. I so get ahead of myself, but thank goodness I learned on her because I have made so many mistakes, I might as well make them all on one girl so the future girls don't see my dumbass side.

Believe me though, I want to try EVERYTHING Shade teaches. That guy is one of my favorite teachers.

So the date ends and she drives me back to my place (did I mention she drove us hehe, she had to pick up her cell anyway). So she drove me back, no kino and a mellow good bye.. I think it ended very well though... but

Not sure what to do next, I got horny as fuck that night. I can feel a hook up about to brew, so I call her at about 9pm and ask what she is up to. She laughs a bit (knowing why I called, I can feel she knows) when I ask and tells me she is going to the gym, then has to study and get some sleep. Ahh! I do believe her though, it was a fucking Sunday.

So we'll see what happens with her. She's going to Las Vegas this weekend, I hope we don't fade away.. .but if we do


I think I found a pattern. HB-Magic! I call her Friday and try to work out a get together with her, but that doesn't work out. I don't call or text till today. I text her saying "I am going to be really busy this week I'll call you this weekend tho. late" something like that. She responds back in like 5 seconds with just "Ok"

Low and behold, just like with Eve, I saw Magic in the dining halls! It was a dining hall I haven't been to all year. I decided to go there on a whim, just because I hadn't been there in so long. And guess what, of ALL the times I could go to that dining hall and of all the locations we could be standing in, I bump into Magic!

Nice!!!

Just like how I bumped into Eve almost. Check it, I only talk a bit as she is such a magician chick, I barely have to talk and she just entertains me and is so talkative, she even gives some light kino initially! Fucking A

I invite her to sit with us, along with her friend, and she joins me, J, and T. We chat the entire time about whatever, (shite I don't even remember). I never remember what I talk about in conversation (maybe that's because the content means shit, its all about the rapport).

Let me describe Magic. She's about 8 inches shorter than me (I'd guess 5'6"), got a clean nice face, great lips, a nice, fucking nice rack, and a fucking hip personality. One down side is short hair, but whatever. I'd give her an 8 all together (with long hair.. the short hair makes it like a 7.5 but whatever). The best part is her charisma, I am honestly surprised that she isn't taken by some celebrity.

I got my SOI down perfectly for her. Its 100% honest. "You know what I like about you, Magic. There is never a dull moment with you, you are always positive and charismatic. I honestly haven't met a girl like that in ages. Another thing I like about you is that you are so comfortable with touch (then I'll do an example) most people in this society are uncomfortable with touching (do some funny impression) but you make situations feel good. You also have this amazing sense of humor, you honestly crack me up etc etc"

I am not going to kiss her ass or say any more than that. This was the mistake with Eve. Beyond this SOI, I am done. All the above is honest, as was my SOIs for Eve. Right after I told Eve how I felt about her, the next day she came to my door and sucked me beautiful. (Then I got mushy). But its EXACTLY as Mystery says A + C = S. Attract her and build comfort with her and she will seduce YOU!


This week I am fucking busy, I dont' even know how I had time to write this. But, after this I told Magic I would call her after we parted. (Oh I forgot to mention, I venue changed her and her friend to come with us to see my other roommate A play sax at a campus gig!! Nice!)

So next time I call her, I'll work out some kind of date or whatever, do the SOI. Get into solid comfort. NOT HOOK UP WITH HER TILL 7 HOURS. Then see how far I get. Also, I will lead and in no way make any impression of a "relationship" till we have been fucking for a long, long time.

Like to give a FUCKING HUGE shout out to my main mans Ulysses, Grungey10, and Suseboy and a whole fuckin lot of others (did I forget to mention David Shade, Mystery, Style, etc). I am getting fucking good guys, the ball is rolling, I am starting to get father.

I can't say my attraction game is solid, but my comfort game is improving like nothing else

Oh I just met a new PUA at my school, fucking cool guy who is also a professional stage actor, man that guy has some solid attraction game. I hope to learn a lot from this guy. I may mention him more later if I see him around more.


PS. Okay, the pattern is that I randomly bump into girls I am interested more and more. I wonder if this has to do with what Ross Jeffries said.. when we write down and figure out the type of women we are truly interested, we'll start bumping into them randomly. It'll feel like an accident, but it will start happening. I wonder if this has anything to do with that... hmm voodoo

Posted by BigSend on Tuesday, May 23, 2006 at 5/23/2006 02:20:00 AM | Permalink