How to Find and Live Your Mission
This article is by Alex over at Inner Game Reframe The road to success in obtaining one's goals is a stressful one that is often not enjoyed until one reaches their goal. Then what? The success is fleeting and then they are forced to distract themselves with ego desires like buying things that they don't need or take on another goal and become miserable in their pursuit of the next goal. Setting goals can be scary because of the enormous task at hand. Most of the time this prevents people from even starting. While others push through this fear they are still faced with obstacles to overcome. One's mission is not a goal to obtain. For a goal has an end, while a mission never dies. If your mission is to be an example of unconditional love, you will continue this mission until the last breathe leaves your body. But if you strive to create a successful company you will eventually reach your goal and your job is done. This leaves you with an empty or unfulfilled feeling, along with the question 'Now what?' Once a person knows their mission they can begin right away without hesitation or the fear of reaching a goal. Choose a mission or purpose that gives and improves life instead of one that drains and takes from existence. Existence always rewards those whose mission is that which will add great value to other's lives and humanity as a whole. The typical 'problem' people are faced with which deters most from pursuing their mission is money. Without food, shelter, and basics needs, you can't follow your mission. You won't help many people by living on the streets worrying about whether a junkie in the ally is going to stab you. I'm going to suggest that you keep your current job. It doesn't mean that you will not continue on your path. Instead, use your job as a stepping stone to pursuing your mission until it can provide you with enough money to support yourself. Your job might not be the most fulfilling but it will get a whole lot easier once you know that you are using the job as a stepping stone to something greater. Most people live lives of quiet desperation because they feel that their job is an end in and of itself and not a stepping stone. They fear they will die in a cubical. Another difficulty most people face is finding their mission. They make the mistake of not knowing the difference between one's mission and the medium in which they will live out their mission. Let me explain. Find your mission first and the medium that you use will present itself naturally. Once you make a decision on your mission, doors will 'magically' open up for you. How to Find Your Mission The way to find what your mission is and what you were born to do, is to find out what your unique qualities are. Everyone has a different set of unique qualities that they posses but sadly most will never know what they are. If I were to ask most people what is wrong with them they would quickly and easily be able to give a rundown of all of their faults. Now, if I were to ask most people what their unique gifts are, they would stare at me with a blank look on their face. Even if they were able to answer the question it would come after several minutes of thought. They are unsure of their gifts, natural abilities and unique qualities. Ask yourself the following questions: What do I like to do? What are my unique gifts? What are my passions? What mark do I want to leave on the world? How do I want to be remembered after I'm gone? Put money aside when you are thinking about your mission because money isn't a factor. 'Do what you love and the money will follow' should be held in mind as you search for your mission. Remember, existence always rewards those who contribute to the world. Make your mission about something that will be for the greater good of society. Make it something that is even greater than yourself. When you die, do you want your only contribution to be that you made tons of money for yourself? Or do you want to make a lasting mark on the world? If you don't know your mission right now, make your mission about finding it. It might come easily to you or it might take some time to find out what you want to do with your life. Once you have your unique qualities and what you are passionate about, you can now create a mission statement. Write it down. Writing your mission statement down makes it concrete and a reality for you instead of just an idea. Note that you will go back to your mission statement from time to time to upgrade and make changes to it. Be ok with the fact that it won't be a 100% perfect at first. Today you might want your mission to be one thing and the next day it might be something different. You never know what tomorrow will bring. Now that you have an idea of what you want your mission to be you have a path to follow. Start living it. Most people haven't the slightest idea of what they want to do with their lives beyond making a lot of money. Without a mission and purpose you will spend your life drifting like a cork screw in an open sea. You can't get to where you want to go without knowing the destination. In addition, a man on a mission is very attractive to a girl. They know that the man has a sense of purpose in life. They know that he isn't another sheep in the flock who is satisfied with everyday life-they strive for more. Knowing where you are going in life and being the direction is very yang. Lasting attraction is all about yin/yang polarity. The women in your life need to know that you are taking her someplace, taking her on an adventure and growing together. Most guys think that they can get by with doing the normal relationship crap and keep the passion alive. In reality, this is enough to keep you happy in the beginning stages of the relationship but will soon become boring and stagnate. Some women are more yang than most and already have a mission in their lives. We need to honor those women who do not wish to follow in our paths. A lot of women are naturally more yin. Yin is very feminine, nurturing and giving. Yin's job is to support a man who is on a mission. On the other hand, when yin doesn't have a masculine, yang leader with a purpose she begins to feel unfulfilled. Lacking proper yin/yang polarity will cause the attraction to fade. It does so because she is with a weak man that does not know what he is doing with his life. You should also have your girlfriend find out what her unique gifts are and what she can contribute to your mission. For example, I suck with grammar and spelling but my girlfriend doesn't. She helps me spell check my writing and make sure it sounds good. My girlfriend also supports my mission in other ways. She cleans, does laundry and all the other stuff I hate doing. She does that stuff so I am better able to focus on my mission. Cleaning up doesn't seem very significant but if she is doing it is so I can focus on my mission, her role becomes very important. In other words, she is helping improve existence in her own way. When a woman helps support your mission, her life is given a sense of purpose as well. When your mission improves existence, she will feel as though she is doing the same. Since missions will never end, unlike goals, you will always be on your path. Your relationship will continue to grow as you pursue your purpose. This will keep the attraction and excitement alive. Without a mission you won't know where you are heading. When you are unsure of where to go you will not be able to properly lead a woman. You will look to her for direction just to find that she is looking right back at you to take the lead. This is a huge turn off for women. Strong attraction will be felt in the presence of a man who knows what he wants in life and will not stop for anyone or anything to get it. Your mission is not imposed upon you by God or anyone else. Make the choice to find your purpose today and separate yourself from the pack. Labels: Outside Articles
I found it to be a great articulation of what it means to live our "mission"
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Many people feel overwhelmed when they get a glimpse of what they want to do with their life. The task seems daunting, the road long and hard accompanied by an uncertain destination. They can't see the top from the bottom or the light through the fog.
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