FR: Solo Sarging and the Two Exchange Students
Almost every night I have been going out preparing for a bootcamp with BradP whom I feel has a style most aligned with me. BradP is all about having fun, being flirty, very sexual and direct. Another thing about Brad is his style involves a lot of social freedom, lack of anxiety and social discomfort. To get to this level, I must repeatedly expose myself to what bothers me the most. Labels: Field Reports
So, solo sarging I go! I hit up a local bar where I live with the intent to deliver the Horse Girl line and get a least 3 negative reactions or 1 positive one. Since my ego and anxiety always gets in the way with “what if _____ happens” I told myself “I want ____ to happen!” So I went out with the intent to reverse psychology my ass and want the bad stuff to happen. If I get punched in the face, dumped a beer on, it is because I want it! Hehe
So I enter the bar and see a girl sitting with her friends. She looks cute from the side and I open her with some random situational line. Not sure why I didn’t do Horse Girl but I think it was anxiety. The opener failed, the girl didn’t pay attention. So that is Negative Set #1. Next, I see a two girls walking around the bar and I think to myself “Okay time to get rejected” Still my ego held me back a bit, but I then recalled the 3 second rule and just fucking got up and went (greatest move ever). The two girls were sitting down so I could only open one of them and I chose the girl closest to me. I tap her on the shoulder, pull the seat next to her acting like this is no big deal and deliver the HG line “Hey do you like horses?” and I go with that.
At first she didn’t really understand or hear me, so I repeated the line “You know, horses Giddy up Giddy up!” and she laughed. I finished the opener by hugging her “So… do you forgive me” and she hugs back, not a big hug but it works. Anyway the bar is fucking LOUD so it’s hard to establish a good conversation without shouting in each other’s ears. With that said, for the next hour we were shouting in each other’s ears and laughing. I’m not even sure what we talked about. Well first, after the opener I ask her “So how have you been all these years” doing some role-play. I find out she is from Brazil and her friend (which I have been kinda ignoring due to her distance from me) is from Korea and they are exchange students. Whoa that’s cool. (This is good evidence for my anti-ego—my anxieties were wrong, these girls were very fun and receptive! IOW: my ego was saying “no don’t do it, they look mean” but in reality they were VERY nice and fun)
We talk about Brazil and vibe a lot, she naturally kinos a lot, so I kino’s her back, being next to her. At one point I ask how good of a body reader she is and I point random people out in the bar, usually couples, and ask her if she can assess their situation based on body language. That was fun, then we played Fuck Marry Kill and I chose the CREEPIEST guys possible and she wanted to kill all of them! Nice! After this she asks if I have Orkut and while I do, I have like 1 friend on it. I never use it, but apparently Orkut is Brazil’s myspace. Since I can’t spell her name for shit, I tell her to text message me her name so that is how I got her number :)
This is about 30 minutes in and I suggest a venue change to a different bar a few blocks away. They have not visited it and they seem down. Cool, but they want to go after midnight. We compromise. During our vibing, she mentions she wants me to be a bartender so I suggest she gets a job application. She is too shy to get it, so I tell her I’ll get it for her if she buys me a drink :) haha. So I go ahead and do it, the bar tender gives me some weird shit test, a little hard time, like “No. Come in during the day bro” and I just say “Its not for me, its for my friend here. She is too shy to ask” and the bar tender goes ahead and gets it. Now I was a bit put off by him being so testy so, I offer him a dollar for his efforts and he refuses the tip! Haha, I’m not sure if its some kind of rule of thumb to fuck around with guys who want to be bar tenders, but I thought he was a bit rude.
Anywayz back to bizz. I venue change the girls to the other bar and unfortunately—probably due to Labor Day weekend—the bar was fairly dry. Oh well. On the way there, some other dude approaches us and recognizes my targets Brazilian accent and he fucking clings to her for a good 2 minutes. I realize he is so creepy in his moves that I barely do anything, I just talk to the Korean girl. Eventually I tell my target and Korean to come up stairs and check out the karaoke room and she gladly leaves the clingy guy. Not much is going on up there either, so we all get a seat as its still the 3 of us and just chat. We talk a lot about weed—its weird why girls bring up marijuana with me, it could be that one of my questions is “What was your first/favorite memory of getting drunk/high/whatever” Sometimes it can be a fun story.
I even qualify my girl with the standard, “What did you want to be when you grew up…. And don’t say princess!” and also “What are your passions in life” “Do you like to travel” and though the qualification questions are cool, they felt a bit artificial at times so I kept up the vibing in between. Honestly, this set was like 99% vibing, 1% routines literally.
Now though her kino was pretty good and receptive, I slapped her on the ass after we left bar #2 and she gave me a pretty harsh test. “Oohh!” Then a minute later she said “Please, don’t do that again” and she gave me a look like “No.” Perhaps it is part of her culture or I was uncalibrated. Either way, I realized this set was going to be harder than it’s worth. Its going pretty good now, can I let it go? My ego was a bit down about the “No.” from the smack in the ass and I realize my ego can be pretty fragile, a blunt negative comment can fuck me up sometimes.
I can never be sure if this decision was the best or not, but I tell myself, I am going to let this set go. Its 1:30AM and I am tired, they want to go back to bar #1. I tell them, “All right, I’m gonna bail, I live up the street” and the girls seem disappointed and the Brazilian asks me to call her… Maybe I’ll call, not sure. I need to go out as much as possible before this boot camp. I need to crush my ego and be solid in my space.
So I committed to doing solo sarging, exposing myself to anxieties and building my social freedom and that is what I’ll do. I will write out a full report of Brad’s bootcamp and I am super excited about it. Sure, it will be a financial sacrifice; in fact I don’t think I’ve spent more than about $3-400 on anything yet or at least for a long ass time. Now I am probably going to spend about $1-1.5k depending on if I take the extra day.
Keep truckin!
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